(A carving my father in-law made for us. He chose the fairy tale imagery because of my interest in all things romantic. I call it my hobbit house.)I have in-laws, like any married woman, and I like to remind myself that my husband THUS has in-laws too.
No matter how you were draw to your spouse you will find many differences in upbringing, thus many differences in your views of the world and your in-laws views of the world. Just as you have to work at the marriage relationship because you will both be joining two different worlds together; you also have to put the same effort at joining with your in-laws world. The idea is to not look at this relationship selfishly but to remember you and your husband both have to make an effort to understand people who are often largely so very different from you.
In my marriage it is very true that opposites did attract. Therefore, another thing I like to remind myself of is how could I have found such a perfect match if not for who his parents are? If they weren’t different from me they could not have made my opposite.
Put your spouse first and also remember other couples need do the same, remember your in-laws are a couple.
Hope always… sometimes the understanding that you come from different worlds and neither is cut and dry wrong will not be reciprocated. Or the understanding of you and your spouse having to put one another first will not be seen for the necessity it is… in such cases hope always, avoid bitterness, forgive and pray for reconciliation… you can do no more for the rest is up to Christ and other peoples hearts, neither of which can you control.
TTFN
You remind us our wonderful husbands are the result of their upbringing and so we can be thankful for our in-laws. Thank you.
Bless you for sharing.
Love the new look around here… and that C.S. Lewis quote is a favorite!
In my marriage it is very true that opposites did attract. Therefore, another thing I like to remind myself of is how could I have found such a perfect match if not for who his parents are? If they weren’t different from me they could not have made my opposite.
So true! I married my opposite as well. His parents are WAY different from mine, but I think I would have been bored with a carbon copy of my own.
God knows.
Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday, Mac an Rothaich!
Hugs, e-Mom
I love your perspective! Chuck and I are opposites, too. Our families are so different so I could really relate to your post. Great post, thanks for stopping by. 🙂
True, opposite attracts and so we expect to have opposing upbringing, values and personality with our husband and his family. We can’t put our husband and our in-laws in a box or a molder according to our perception of a perfect image for no one is ever perfect as we all are different from each other. This we need to always remind ourselves, including myself. You’ve just reminded me! Thanks.
Great reminder! In our instance, my father is with the Lord and my mother is not a part of our lives…so we only have one set of in-laws…so only “half the battle”. I praise the Lord that my in-laws are so amazing. Blessings from MM!
You’ve brought out some nuances about our relationships with our in-laws that’s new and fresh to me. I appreciate it and thanks for stopping by my blog too! 🙂
What a great reminder! I especially love the point about remembering that your husband would not be who he is w/out his parents. How true! Thanks for sharing! And sorry it’s taken me so long to return the comment. I hope you have a great weekend!