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Vows All Over Again

by admin on April 25, 2010 in Bits Of My Personality, My Romance with 1 Comment


Wow, it is so much harder to write your own vows. The first time we just read the traditional ones out and this time (for our vow renewal ceremony) we decided, naively, to write our own. I was smart enough to start taking notes, you know, when I am spontaneously inspired and filled with feelings about my man and trying to put this love into words right away.

I think it is harder now because we have been through so much together, changed so much, know so much more about the good and bad parts… it is a crazy and beautiful love because of this too. He knows my faults and I know his and we love one another too… crazy…

If you think of me pray for the words to come so I can do my love for this man justice. The ceremony is only about seven weeks away!

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Hello Handsome, You Goin My Way?

by admin on April 21, 2010 in Bits Of My Personality, My Romance with 4 Comments
Thank you my love for slowing your usually break neck speed for me and my pink cruiser.
Thank you my love for taking the paved trails and not the cliffs by the river, for my sake.
Thank you my love for buying me a scone because you could tell my temper was just a hint of the sugar crash about to arrive… I don’t get this much exercise on a regular basis yet.
Thank you my love for riding on my blind side so I would crash into you and not some other poor soul.
Thank you my love for riding near by when it got dark because you have all the night gear and lights and I don’t yet.
Thank you my love for talking to me all the way there and back and making me feel like we where young and in love again:)

I don’t know if we have had a chance, before tonight, to go biking in this lovely city of ours as JUST THE TWO OF US! It was fabulous and will be a regular date night idea from now on. We talked and talked as we pedaled together. It was affordable too, just stopped for a coffee at one point and the scenery was free and priceless! The exercise was great! You don’t really appreciate where you live till you get out like this! The city feels so much smaller when you are flying around on a bike.
(We go on dates so infrequently I made my guy take lotsa pictures of us to prove we DID IT!)

(I love my retro ride! It may be low tech but I usually get way more compliments about my bike then my guy does with his high tech, way to pricey ones… sorry honey but it’s true!)

We went all the way from our place to the river and then all the way down the new developed river side parks, to the canoeing club area then back to Broadway for coffee. Made a quick stop at a grocery store on 8th, a practical parent like stop to get a can opener (I busted the handle off mine) then up to a friends to return their house key and back home.

As we walked in the door after a lovely evening of biking across the city together I made a comment I am sure I have made before…’it is amazing how hard it is for us to make ourselves go on a date and yet when we do it we have such a lovely time we can hardly wait for the next one… unless, of course, we wait too long again…’

(Anyone who knows my man can believe the distance we went is possible for him but just so everyone knows I actually made it, here are these last few pictures as proof. Enjoying a coffee and a scone.)

It is nights like tonight that I remember Garnet is my best friend as well as my husband. We always had so much to talk about and loved doing everything together, back when we could, back before kids… and we need to be reminded, every now and then, that we LIKE being with one another and LIKE one another.

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I DID MY HAIR ALREADY!

by admin on April 14, 2010 in My Romance with 1 Comment
(Me and My Guy at a folk concert last month!)

“Honey I am supposed to be there in fifteen minutes and I haven’t gotten myself ready because I have been dressing the kids!” I said, pleading for him to watch the kids long enough for me to get dressed. I was about to add all I had done so far for myself was get my hair done. Still was in my pj’s otherwise.

“Well put a hat on and you will look fine.” he offered.

“Garnet…” a silence followed to aid the effect… I gave a look that said’ look before you talk LOOK at me before you talk!’

“What?” he is starting to smile nervously.

“I did my hair already.” I am trying to look angry but really I find it pretty funny that he got himself into this mess so easily.

“Right… ” he bursts out laughing at this point and I laugh too.

Boy was he lucky I was in a good mood!

I’m in a good mood because he is being such a lovely man this week. He took time off work and out of his holidays to finish the main room in the basement! We should have a tv/play room by the end of the week! My man has been working hard and I find that so romantic!

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Marriage Monday

by admin on April 5, 2010 in Bits Of My Personality, Marriage Monday, My Romance, My Year of Right Sacrifice-TIME with 14 Comments

It is a pick your own topic month. Anything relating to marriage and Christ I suppose.

is a favorite song of mine.
When it gets tough I often reflect on her words of wisdom.

“Loving a person just the way they are, its no small thing, its the whole thing.“

Often spouses are opposites… my man and I are, personality wise, very much opposites. I think one of the greatest things Garnet does for me is he loves me in spite of how hard my personality can make that. I hope and pray I do the same for him:)

True romance…

I am a stormy emotional personality. I prefer to get angry over getting sad, it is my protective wall if I am feeling sorrow or pain… I act like a prickly pear when I need a hug the most… He doesn’t understand this but as we continue to get to know one another better he doesn’t let it get to him as much and reaches out to me in spite of myself. I am so thankful for his ability to yank me away from depression because there are things about myself that I used to fear, sometimes momentarily still do, and he (through Christ that strengthens him) doesn’t fear them.

We talked for hours when dating and still do when the kids give us the chance. Our personalities could really limit our growth as a couple because we see things and do things so differently but I thank the Lord that he has blessed us with the patience to talk it out. We deliberately try to learn how one another works and thinks and I believe the Lord gives us more insight then we would have on our own, in times of trying and need.

My Mom told me at a young age that you can’t spend your life trying to change a man, specifically your man because only God can do that. I am thankful for the grace and patience that the Lord can give a marriage so that two conflicting personalities can connect and love and respect one another for their differences.

Perfect example in closing… my husband smirks and laughs when he is nervous… this used to make me so upset and hurt when young because I would be upset about something and he would giggle. Now I usually can’t help but smirk too, knowing he reacts this way because he does understand I am upset, this is just how he handles it. I can tell you from experience, just getting more angry doesn’t make the smirking and snickering go away once it has started…

Pray that the Lord will give you and your man HIS eyes for one another so you can love your husband just the way he is and he can do the same for you:) Thank the Lord that he knows you and your spouses faults and is more then able to deal with these faults and shortcomings and can change them for the better!

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Blessed Family Time!

by admin on April 5, 2010 in Bits Of My Personality, Four Little Eggs In My Nest, Mama Heart Mushings, My Romance with 1 Comment

We kicked it all off with a graduation! My three year old, Little Woman, graduated from her first year of ‘wee college’. It was a night to fuss over her and she deserves fussing. She got to march up to the front and recite songs she learned and then received a certificate! A big night for our girl! Other then getting a little queasy at the end she was a pro!

Spring break has only barely began and we have already been so busy!
First day of spring break we took Big Girl down town to get her first BIG KID bike! It is a ‘tom boy’ color and she even got biking gloves to go with! She is loving the mature features of gear shifting and handle breaks!

(I love this man! I adore spending time with my best friend! Biking, skating in the winter, and hopefully taking up kayaking together this year, are all better with him! Next big plan in the works, after kayaking, is to get used to camping as a family.)

In the winter we skate. In the summer this family BIKES! The above pictures are me and my man on our first family bike ride of the year. The older two kids do so well following us in a straight line and keeping up. The younger two are as happy as can be in the trailer I pull. The first trip was a little nippy but we had been anticipating this all winter and so off we went!

When there are big things going on in life, big things that could really consume your mind and cause you to just stop, the little things, the family time blessings are all the more important and wonderful, especially for a Mama and her mushy heart.

TTFN

PRAYER IN MARRIAGE (It Connects Us)

by admin on March 2, 2010 in Marriage Monday, My Romance, My Year of Right Sacrifice-TIME with 10 Comments
I wasn’t going to post for this months topic… I knew it would be more of a time of self examination and confession in this area.

I decided to go on with it and here is what came…

Prayer in our marriage has had its up and downs.

We started out, as young newly weds, with a plan to pray together every night but often as we went through problems that pulled us apart the praying together suffered too…

We have both changed so much that our prayer together has changes as well. When we first prayed together I was the charismatic Christian who prayed the loudest and in different forms and my humble husband prayed with a raw heart… now I am quiet when we pray together… I struggle to pray aloud with him and I don’t know why. He is so bold now, so strong and so wonderful to listen to.

I know we both pray for one another regularly and wrap our hard times in prayer for protection over our marriage but it is no longer a regular together thing for us.

HOWEVER, prayer is powerful in our lives and our life together (God uses it to connect us).

I will share this story to show hope is not dead and we will figure it out and I trust I will find my prayer voice in front of my husband once again.

(Story taken from a previous post on my old blog http://beckysmeanderingriver.blogspot.com/)

I struggled to hold on to my third pregnancy… I became too weak to pray, a scary and low position to be in.

I caught two stomach flu’s in a row and had a sever sinus infection on top of that, which left me unable to keep food down. I lost ten pounds a month in my first few months of pregnancy.
In my lowest point I was unable to get off the couch. My mother had to come stay with us so the kids would be taken care of when my husband was at work. All I could do was sleep. I was too sick to even talk much.
One night I lay alone on the couch after my family had gone to bed. I felt awful and totally alone and helpless… In my heart I desired to pray but was so tired. All I could do was cry and whisper, “Help me Jesus… please…”
All of a sudden my husband came bounding up the stairs. I love him dearly but I know he hadn’t realised how sick I was until this moment. He said he was trying to sleep but every time he closed his eyes he saw me crying out to Christ for help and he knew the Lord wanted him to understand how I was feeling because I was to ill to communicate it myself. We sat there and he held me and I wept…
WOW, whenever I recall this night I remember how loved I felt at that moment. It was such a real and personal way the Lord showed his love to me. He knew Garnet and I where limited by our male and femaleness and didn’t always communicate effectively so he stepped in to communicate to my man in a way that he would understand… I felt totally surrounded by love… the love of my husband and the LOVE OF MY GOD.

I am laughing about that situation in one regard now; it seems funny that we needed divine intervention in our marital communication skills:)

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Tapestry

by admin on February 23, 2010 in Bits Of My Personality, Life Keeps Changing, My Romance with 4 Comments
MARK 4:32
It is like a grain of mustard seed, which, when sown on the ground, is the smallest of all the seeds on earth, yet when it is sown it grows up and becomes larger than all the garden plants and puts out large branches, so that the birds of the air can make nests in its shade.

And so often a mommy has a day where she doesn’t feel up to the task… she is so tired… so warn down… she just wants to go to bed… she wants the impossible… the impossible is being able to put her mommy job on pause.

It takes faith to hold it together.
It takes faith to be a mommy, faith that I am up to the task.
It takes faith to be a wife, faith that our marriage will go the distance.

Thankfully faith doesn’t intimidate me as it once did, it isn’t completely mystifying…

I know it is Gods will that I hold it together.
It is Gods will for me to be a good mommy to these four babes.
It is Gods will for me to be a wife and for our marriage to go the distance.
And in knowing his will in these areas, my faith is in him and from him.

Garnet came home with the above tapestry for me. He found it at a favorite store of mine and knew I would like it in our bedroom. Why did he do this? He felt lead to do it for me yesterday. This is his style… no reason other then he wanted to love me in this way, at this time. He didn’t know I was having one of those day… but he couldn’t have had better timing. He spoke the above verse to me as he gave me the gift. He felt it would be great to hang with the verse above it in the future.

Mommy’s don’t always get spoiled in such obvious ways when they are having one of THOSE DAYS or weeks, been there when it all seems to loom over your head for much longer then a mear day… but if we put our trust in Christ more about the mommy and wife stuff Christ will spoil us with the faith to make it through.

p.s. Right now my faith is pretty practical in one regard…I am having faith that naps will become more common in my house again:)

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A Refreshing Reminder

by admin on February 16, 2010 in Bits Of My Personality, Dem Kids Sayed WHAT?, Holiday Messages, My Romance with 1 Comment

A double date with my guy’s brother and wife. She is a dear sister of mine and so it was like going out with great friends as well as close family. We watched a silly movie… tense enough to excuse my snuggling up to my guy. We enjoyed a late evening meal at a very fashionable lounge. We all returned home to our babies and thanked the grandparents who watched both families worth of kids! Couldn’t have done it without them!

Today, watched our wedding video, first time in a long time. Garnet and I gave one another mushy looks and chuckled at the younger, perhaps sillier, versions of ourselves. I practically roared with laughter at my oldest son’s horror when the big kiss was played out on DVD. I had to elbow him after he exclaimed ‘Awe! You guys KISSED??!!’ Apparently he hasn’t been to enough weddings.

The date was enjoyable and a refreshing break. The family movie was a good reminder. The weekend was a touch of love and romance… I hope to be mushier with my man as the week goes on and not stop to appreciate our gift of love on Valentines day alone…,but, for those of us who are well advanced in our marriages and well aged by our maturing love, that goes without saying!

TTFN

Princess Dreams

by admin on February 11, 2010 in Bits Of My Personality, Mama Heart Mushings, My Romance with 5 Comments

My girls are such a refreshingly feminine influence on me! As we talk about Mom and Dad’s renewal ceremony this spring they have such fun ideas. When they noticed I had flowers in my hair the first time they had to know if they could do that this time. The conversation lead to headdresses and I am so excited that they want to have so much fun with this!

They are hoping us three girls can have floral head dresses instead of bouquets. Perhaps this is a grand idea since we will be holding hands as we walk up. So now I am looking all over the Internet for ideas! They also want their hair done up (me too!) and so we are looking for something that makes your hair look really good too!

This one looks like a bouquet on your head! Lol, I actually kinda dig it!
Keeps your hands free!

This is the fairy head dress!
PRETTY!

Oh this is elfish!
Getting in touch with my Celtic side!

This one has a lovely look to the back!
Ribbons might make it better!

Perhaps this one is just right!
Perhaps…

I am no Martha Stewart so I wonder where you buy such a thing?

TTFN

Getting Over It

by admin on February 11, 2010 in Bits Of My Personality, Book Flavor, My Romance with 2 Comments

So I had to spend most of the day trying to shake off the story of ‘Tess’ and her demise. I was succeeding by reminding myself that the author was sending a message, a good message through this story…

Looking for comfort I told my husband about the books end. I expressed how it had really upset me. He smiled wrapped me in his arms and said ‘Come here and let me comfort you over a person who didn’t even exist.’ Oh my temper flared and I wanted to slap him… but the flash of anger was cooled by his good natured laugh at my expense and I left the room instead.

I need a more cheerful classic novel now, to sooth my readers heart.

TTFN

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