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Iced Tea

This is not a picture of what I am up to right now… I am drinking an iced tea, however. The similarities stop there. That day I was on the patio with my feet up watching the kids play. Tonight I am baking bread, in the evening, with a big old fan working hard to pull the cool evening air into my killer hot kitchen.

My man made me a creamy iced cold roobois tea tonight! That sweetness from my man deserves a blog nod! Thank you honey! It is making it easier to get my 8 loaves through!

Bread day doesn’t stop for the summer. I still have to get my weekly batch through… so I mix it before the heat of the day, pound it down the majority of the day and then cook it once the sun goes down in an attempt to not get too hot in this unairconditioned old house of ours.

I am working hard wearing my fav cowgirl hat and thinking about the wonderful summer day that has just fallen asleep. All four of babies are playing down stairs where it is cool… too hot to sleep in their rooms yet and they napped all afternoon (FOUR HOURS) so they deserve a late night. They are on storm watch! Any minute now a storm is going to roll in. The clouds have been coming all day and the thunder is starting to make itself heard. I plan to pop another couple loaves in the oven and sit at the big window with the kids while we watch the lightning.

What is this post about? Love of course:)

P.s. BOY did we get a storm! Wind whipping our pine trees around, rain coming down in sheets and then hail, constant lightening and every now and then a boom of thunder that send shivers down every one’s spine. There was one crack right over our house that made my husband jump back from the window (he loves storms) and sent Baby Boy screaming madly and running blindly across the house… we think he meant to find Daddy who was in the kitchen but he really seemed to just go off like a rocket with no specific target in mind… he was just SCARED! Baby Boy didn’t let Daddy put him down, after that one, till the storm was over. We all stayed up late till it had passed. It was an amazing storm!

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Summer Days, Soccer Craze!

The rules of soccer are very simple, basically it is this: if it moves, kick it. If it doesn’t move, kick it until it does.
~Phil Woosnam, 1974

Soccer is a BLESSING!
Because it gets our family together!

Garnet and I where just having a calm cup of tea on the patio together while the kids played when all of a sudden I was on my own because a soccer match broke out! Only on my own long enough to sit and take a few pictures and then join in. It just so happens that we always seem to have a rip roaring good time as a family when we have a good soccer match in the yard.

(The crowd is wild!! Well maybe not… eventually they got involved in the game too and then they got pretty wild. No more side lines for these two babes of mine. Just last year they could only watch!)

(I always love to see my man with the kids. He is very good at playing with them and I appreciate the effort he puts into that!)(Baby Boy is fearless about getting right in there, as you can see… the problem is he often just wants the ball and once he has it he will run off the field with the other players in hot pursuit!)
(Little Woman is yelling out the rules, just like her role model Big Girl would. She makes her sister proud!)

We laugh so hard and play so hard together! Summer days are here! My older two will be home any minute now from their last day of school… school might be officially over today but we have already been intoxicated with the joy of summer for some time!

Summer is the time when one sheds one’s tensions with one’s clothes, and the right kind of day is jeweled balm for the battered spirit. A few of those days and you can become drunk with the belief that all’s right with the world.
~Ada Louise Huxtable

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Our Vow Renewal

(Garnet and I are standing in front of the tree we got engaged under… over 11 years age. We sat together, leaning against the tree…I was reading him the first chapter in Galatians and he burst out ‘will you marry me’)

Many years ago I decided I wanted to have a vow renewal when the kids where little still. There where many reasons for it. I knew the girls would really love the experiences, I wanted to wear my wedding dress again, especially once I was done having children, and it is another reason to celebrate life, love and family.

We joke that after Garnet proved himself unable to remember special dates like our anniversary we made a deal. I wouldn’t fuss about the missed dates and he would let me throw a big anniversary party every 10 years. He thought he won but once the ceremony came upon him he knew I won (wink).
We decided to make it special we would amerce our family with special little things because the little things are what is important, and remembered! For example, the girls and I got our hair professionally done and they decided they wanted to have floral crowns instead of bouquets. The guys wore something comfortable instead of super formal. They all looked great in their button up shirts and jeans.

One very special little moment between me and the girls was when we kicked off our shoes as we walked down the isle. I had always wanted to do it bare foot!

Garnet and I going back to our engagement tree and getting pictures done there was very big on the must do list. A good friend, Esther, who is a talented photographer did this for us.

The day was also beautiful because of all the little ways important people in our lives took part.
My sister Mirelle sang a BEAUTIFUL song as we walked down the isle. It was breath taking and I felt so blessed to have her do that for me!

Both sides parents and siblings with their families made it out! Each family had to make an effort to be there, some postponed trips and others traveled far (even though very pregnant) and others still took time off work. I don’t think we have all been together at once since our first ceremony!

(My Mom and Dad)
(Garnet’s Mom and Dad)

Garnet and I wrote our vows and most know already that I found it pretty tough. I was nervous and tried many times to sneak a peek at Garnet’s but he wouldn’t let me. Turned out fabulous. His was about our past and present and mine was about our present and future! I can’t explain how much I appreciated Garnet’s vows… they meant a lot to me… Closed with the very traditional ’till death do us part’ vows and a kiss.

It was adorable how the kids just congregated around, the girls especially where very much into the whole thing. They danced at our feet and watched us, giggling now and then.
Our kiss was much tamer this time round. It felt very different having all our little nieces starring at us.

I played our song on a little stereo after the vows, “Loving A Person” by Sara Groves. We held hands and thought about how hard but rewarding these 10 years together have been.

My Dad then stood and closed in prayer for us, another big moment for me. I held it together till he was done and he and mom hugged me… then I cried. My parents are so precious to me.
A very short ceremony but so special! Right down the cute little church we rented and the leather couches instead of pews that everyone got to sit on.

We finished up with a busy family gathering at our house with boat loads of good food! The girls and I put on less formal dresses so we could have more fun and be more relaxed.The craziness of a big family gathering was actually very comforting to me that day. As it started to slow down and many of us moved to my sitting room up stairs and chatted I felt very thankful for my family. Most everyone left and Garrison and Mirelle stayed well into the night to watch a movie with us.A long day that was amazingly not stressful but fun and so pretty!
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A Couch and A Water Heater Spell Romance At Our House

Our tenth anniversary came and went, not quietly for we had a big party and vow renewal. BUT we didn’t really focus on a gift for one another from one another.

I was sitting on my new couch the other day and realized it had been nicely delivered just two days before our big day… so I now call it my anniversary gift. I guess I got Garnet a hot water heater because just days before the ceremony we had to replace our now dead one.

The whole buying gifts thing seems easily confusing once married. Really truth be told I bought myself the couch with what I save of my baby cheques and Garnet bought the water heater. I guess we both enjoy each very much so it doesn’t really matter. I feel like as long as we are providing for one anothers needs we are always gift giving:)

(The other piece of furniture to replace the old blue set that went to the basement family room.)

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What I Need is More Kids!

I figured that title would get the attention of some, especially family;)I spent the day trying to shake the blues… it was raining and although I love the rain I have a little storm going on in my house that makes even the fresh spring rains hard to take. Baby Boy has taken to yelling all day. A miserable, angry, discontent, complaining kinda sound is all I get from him lately. A couple days of this and I feel like I have never been so tired.

It is amazing how mental strain and noise can really wipe you out! At the same time I have been so inactive (because all he wants is to be held) I think my body might just take off at a run without me! We sit on the couch so much together I get desperate and start walking him around, while I try to do choirs and HE IS HEAVY! If I have to walk the floors with this big kid for one more hour my feet will retire and look for other work! My back is gonna lock up any time now! It happened with Big Boy at this age! He got SO big and wouldn’t let me put him down until I had no choice. My back locked up half way to bending down towards him and that was that… Mommy had to give him, and herself some tough love and stop the constant pampering.

It is so hard to ignore my Baby Boy, he is my last baby for crying out loud! Seriously, I cry out loud about that some times still! So I figure if I just got me another kid younger then Baby Boy he would have to toughen up like the other three had too… but then I suppose you can’t go with that plan for ever and the needy toddler will be a cycle that just continues to be repeated…

My husbanded showed great sympathy on the phone today… he didn’t try to fix it or question me on what I am doing wrong, he just understood. That is all a tired out Mama needs now and then, some compassion and understanding. Points for Garnet!

Ha ha ha, oh it felt good to complain! Have a great day!

P.s. It doesn’t help that I am going through ‘Chuck’ withdrawal… it is a TV show we bought a season one DVD for and now that we finished the season I am resorting to watching clips of it on the Internet!

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In Two Days!

HAPPY 10TH ANNIVERSARY TO US!THEN
I was 19 and he was 21!
Wrapped up in one another and not much else!
NOW
I am 29 and he is 31!
Four kids later our world of love has grown A LOT!

Having a quiet rainy day at home. Making buns, doing laundry and enjoying my cozy home. It is a relief to be at home today, stuck because of a delivery I am waiting for. Yesterday was a crazy errand day and the rest of the week will be filled with preparations. I decided to post this today because I am sure even our actual anniversary date will be busy. We are renewing our vows on the weekend and having a ceremony for our family. The buns are for the potluck that will follow the ceremony. I really don’t want this party to be about stress but about celebrating life and family and OF COURSE my husband and my love for one another so I am trying to take it slow and not go overkill on plans… thus today… a slow it down day… an enjoy now day.

I can still see the young guy I married when I look at my husband. I can still get completely mushy when I think about how we fell in love.

From a Passionate Love to a Crazy Love.

I am no longer full of secrets, they where never kept from him, just undiscovered when we started out together. All is reveled, he knows all my fear and faults as well as my dreams and qualities. I also, in turn, no all this about him. This is a CRAZY love! In a modern world where love is to be easy and fun and exciting it is crazy to love someone for who they really are, the good and bad. Most expect others to love them that way but are unable to give such forgiving and patient love. Everyone finds it so easy to say good by when people change or things get tough. Everyone understands the passionate love, the showy romance. It is drilled into us, coming from every angle. To understand the crazy love is much more difficult. It is HARD. It is worth it.

“Crazy love, in a world where I could be my own woman and hold my own dreams I choose to be your woman and dream of being a couple to the end.”

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“Our Honeymoon: Enough Memories to Last a Lifetime.” MARRIAGE MONDAY

(June 2000)

Our tenth anniversary is only days away:)

Both having just graduated from college we kept everything about our wedding and honeymoon simple. The lodge we stayed at was only a few miles down the road from my parents farm, where we had gotten married. It was affordable and pretty. We stayed in a sweet little log cabin, complete with deck, kitchen and a lovely stove to snuggle up in front of. The cabin was part of a large wood lodge over looking a lake. Perfect for me because I was to immediately say good bye to all things north and move south with my man after the honeymoon.

The best and worst thing about the honeymoon was that it rained all three days we where there so we mostly sat in the cabin or visited the lodge to dine there. Lovely because it forced us to have lots and lots of talking and alone time… not so lovely because if we would have stayed longer we would have been bored to tears.

I highly recommend to young couples, like we where, to plan a simple get away that leaves lots of down time for you! It is better to not add opportunity to get more stressed. Being in a hurry is no good because patience on a honeymoon, to start the marriage off right, is a real good beginning. Don’t rush through the honeymoon and take the opportunity to start the communication habit in your marriage right then and there.

(So young, marriage was so new… He was 21 and I was 19.)

Remember you and your man being together is the most important part of the trip so cut yourself lots of slack if you are broke like we where and have to keep it simple. There will be time in the future to enjoy fancier things together! We hope to find more opportunities for honeymoon type trips in the years to come. Something more extravagant would now be our style and a cross country train trip would be tops on my list, just me and my man!

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“Our Honeymoon: Enough Memories to Last a Lifetime.” MARRIAGE MONDAY

(June 2000)

Our tenth anniversary is only days away:)

Both having just graduated from college we kept everything about our wedding and honeymoon simple. The lodge we stayed at was only a few miles down the road from my parents farm, where we had gotten married. It was affordable and pretty. We stayed in a sweet little log cabin, complete with deck, kitchen and a lovely stove to snuggle up in front of. The cabin was part of a large wood lodge over looking a lake. Perfect for me because I was to immediately say good bye to all things north and move south with my man after the honeymoon.

The best and worst thing about the honeymoon was that it rained all three days we where there so we mostly sat in the cabin or visited the lodge to dine there. Lovely because it forced us to have lots and lots of talking and alone time… not so lovely because if we would have stayed longer we would have been bored to tears.

I highly recommend to young couples, like we where, to plan a simple get away that leaves lots of down time for you! It is better to not add opportunity to get more stressed. Being in a hurry is no good because patience on a honeymoon, to start the marriage off right, is a real good beginning. Don’t rush through the honeymoon and take the opportunity to start the communication habit in your marriage right then and there.

Remember you and your man being together is the most important part of the trip so cut yourself lots of slack if you are broke like we where and have to keep it simple. There will be time in the future to enjoy fancier things together! We hope to find more opportunities for honeymoon type trips in the years to come. Something more extravagant would now be our style and a cross country train trip would be tops on my list, just me and my man!

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Mother’s Day Weekend Trip (Day 2 – Part 1)

We got up on our own time and it was lovely. Had breakfast in our room and once we looked amazing we headed to the mall with plans to meet our gal pal Oriana (a friend who had just recently moved out to Alberta).

(We entered from the hotel side and saw the ship almost right away so I insisted on a pic in front because I was impressed!)

Mirelle got used to my camera flashing pretty soon. She had said she wanted it all captured and should no better then to encourage me! Most of this post will be pictures of the touristy stuff in the mall I found interesting.
We hit the old photo booth right away. Stopped to look at the pool but we where far to excited about dressing up in Victorian dresses to want to stop and swim. We also didn’t want anything to carve to much time out of our exploration of the mall time (a.k.a. shopping at as many stores as we could). Oh we had a ball getting all dressed up for the pictures. It is totally oue style! As I stood waiting for Mirelle to be posed by the photographer I swished my skirt and could imagine wearing dresses like that. When the photographers assistant put the big hat on my head I fell in love and would have kept it! I love a good hat!

After a bit of quick shopping we headed up stair to meet up with Ori. It was lovely to see her and after hugs we where quickly back in to shopping mode. I took this picture from upstairs and must tell you I zoomed in. I was not impressed by all the see through railing and was sure to stay back and not look down… I don’t know why people like to feel sick…

(I was impressed by these trees and all the fountains! I am a very easy to please tourist!)

(With Oriana along we enjoyed getting more together pictures! She was very agreeable to us putting her to work, THANKS ORI!)

I don’t think we stopped talking all weekend. From the time we got in the car we kept chatting without need to pause until we where again ten minutes away from home! Ori didn’t seem to mind either! She has mostly horses for neighbors so I think she was just as happy as us to have girl time (or TALKATIVE time). It was funny how much the conversation was about our men; how we love them, met them and plans we have with them for the future… ah Garnet and Garrison where never very far from our hearts and minds:)

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Marriage Monday: Why Wives Need Loving Conversation First

(My Garnet and I, taken weeks before our marriage and now
we are only weeks away from 10 married years together.)

ROMANCE~Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love:

I think women need the extra attention and effort of loving conversation before intimacy because everything in our minds is connected and if are going to switch from multitasking to only him tasking we need some leading down that one lane road.

Talking helped me the most when I was fatigued in the midst of four pregnancies and babies. Talking about it helped me remember it… it was my needed moment to reach the ‘HELLO HUSBAND!” moment.

Call to me sweetly,
whisper sweet nothings to me…
if for no other reason then simple to shut the rest of my mind off;)

That is my little bit!

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